tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post191238070886153460..comments2024-01-11T07:40:01.736-05:00Comments on The Stopped Clock: If You Want to Have an Affair, Get Divorced FirstAaronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16523334580402022332noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post-30895981954291885282013-03-07T18:00:55.460-05:002013-03-07T18:00:55.460-05:00In my honest opinion, being cheated on hurts a lot...In my honest opinion, being cheated on hurts a lot but divorce is twice as painful. If your partner leaves you, it'll just validate the failure that your marriage has been. To everyone who wants to have an affair, weigh the pros and cons. Do you want to spend your life with that person or is it a mere fact of sexual desires? Then, if you chose the second one, then that one must be a damn perfect person for you to leave your husband/wife.Louisa Matsuurahttp://www.ipsonlaw.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post-9017061290755348522012-12-01T14:36:55.631-05:002012-12-01T14:36:55.631-05:00Sure. Just like the point of robbing a bank is to ...Sure. Just like the point of robbing a bank is to get a whole lot of money without going to prison. But actions have consequences.Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16523334580402022332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post-21952327784802345872012-11-30T20:44:43.902-05:002012-11-30T20:44:43.902-05:00Isn't the whole point of having an affair that...Isn't the whole point of having an affair that you get to have sex with someone new and still keep your spouse? Kind of an eat your cake and have it too situation. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post-41852939793755425082012-11-24T08:26:52.888-05:002012-11-24T08:26:52.888-05:00You are approaching the post in far too literal a ...You are approaching the post in far too literal a manner. That is, I don't expect that people who could damage their lives and careers will get a divorce first to avoid that damage. I am simply pointing out that they have an alternative that allows them to both avoid breaking their marriage vows and the negative consequences of an affair. They should be able to figure that much out by themselves, no?Aaronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16523334580402022332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5973827.post-28709708116865199282012-11-20T04:59:35.852-05:002012-11-20T04:59:35.852-05:00As of October 2010, no-fault divorce is allowed in...<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/No-fault_divorce#The_adoption_of_no-fault_divorce_laws_by_the_other_states" rel="nofollow">As of October 2010, no-fault divorce is allowed in all fifty states and the District of Columbia.</a> There are still some states where your having an affair might help your spouse to get a more favorable settlement, but they can still get a divorce whether you have an affair or not. And I suspect that most people who have affairs do not in fact want to leave their spouse, which is why they are unlikely to go for a "divorce court first" solution. As I understand the security clearance guidelines, you need to tell your spouse about the affair in order to keep your clearance - and at that point, the blackmail potential is pretty damn minimal.Dave W.noreply@blogger.com